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Melody Barrett (
03 October, 2011
Hi John John,
I leave you with lots of white roses, which signifies pure innocence. 15 years ago – I remember thinking to myself; how will our family go on without you with us? I didn’t know how that would look or what was I to do- How to act—how to BE. But day by day you have been there in my heart, my tears, and my memories. The pictures – I wish we had more of them. I wish I had more time with you. But I know that I am grateful for what time I did have. I miss you and your smile! Love always! Your sister – Melody

18 September, 2008
Hey brother
It’s been a long time since I left flowers but know that I think about you all the time. We went to austin to put fresh flowers for you. I know your in heaven and not at the grave site but it gives us a feeling of closeness to you, The trees dad planted look awesome, the girls go around and dust your little statues and sweep and make it look nicer.

So much has happened in the twelve years since you’ve been gone but i’m sure you know of everything that’s been happening. Sept 24 will be next week and I try to have a smile on my face knowing your in heaven but I do get selfish and become sad at the same time.

When we leave the cemetery we say a prayer, Praying that everyone we know will come to have Jesus in their hearts, because of you my family does and i wanted to say thank you for that.
Love always
your sis
25 August, 2008
I am leaving Daisies because daisies are my favorite flower and I believe they are a happy flower! I have come to know “you” per say through a special person who wishes she would have had the chance to meet you. I hope your rocking it out in Heaven! Blessings, Katie
23 August, 2008
Today I leave sunflowers for you John. Sunflowers are my reminder that it’s always sunny and wonderful where you are. They remind me to smile even when I don’t feel like it. I wish I could have know you, instead of just knowing about you. Reading this memorial made me cry because I know what a great man was stripped from my life. I love you.
11 January, 2007
Hi Son,
I called Kirsten’s father Owen yesterday. The girls and I were thinking about you on your birthday. We were wondering how you would be today. About Michelle, how old she was and Kirsten, how she’s doing. It’s been a while since I left flowers. I guess we get so involved in our day to day life that we don’t have time or make time to visit. Maybe that’s how good a job God does in helping us with our sorrows. I miss you and think about you often. here is a big abrazo, love you dad

“Lara, John (EDC)” (
10 January, 2005
Hi Son,
Today is your birthday. Jeanine and Denise called and asked what we were going to do today. I guess, we will all think about you, feel the lost, the memories. We have had to adapt. Sometimes I think we adapt too well. When this first happened the pain was unimaginable. We prayed to God that this wasn’t true, that the pain we felt was unbearable and wanted all of this to be like it never happened. He took care of you and He is taking care of us. The pain is not unbearable. The sadness will always be. I love you John. Happy Birthday Mijo.

“Susan Tarney” (
12 November, 2003
I have never been here to leave flowers but as I looked at the pictures Jeanine had sent to me, I navigated to John John’s site. I knew John as part of the Lara clan and I know that his life has filled his family’s heart with love and joy and pride and every day that they are here they think of him and love him even more. I care for and love this family and so after reading all the tearful, touching messages from this family I leave these flowers for them too. Somehow I feel that John John would want me to…

“Lara, John” (
16 September, 2003
Hola Hijito,
It has been a very long time since I left you flowers. The day is fast approaching when it will be 7 long years since you left us. Some times it seems like seven minutes. Seems the older one gets, the faster times flies. But time has no defense when it comes to the thought of you. Everything freezes, for that instance, when my mind relaxes and in pour the images of that day, of you, of us, long ago. I have to quickly change my thoughts, I don’t like the way I feel, I don’t like that you’re not with me. I love you and miss you, son. Dad

“Elizabeth Wiggs” (
21 February, 2003
Dear John’s family,
I just visited the web memorial to your brother, John. It was a very touching tribute to him. I wanted to write and tell you how sorry I am about your loss. He sounded like a special person. I know he is greatly missed by all of his friends and family. I know nothing I could say could ease your pain, but I just wanted to share a comforting thought with you. It’s encouraging to know that in the near future, “death will be no more”(Rev.21:4)- and we have the hope of seeing our loved ones again- when Jesus brings them back to life. (John 5:28,29) I know this hope helped me to cope with the loss of my grandparents. Something else that helped me was reading the brochure: “When Someone You Love Dies.”. It has several articles that explain the stages of the grieving process and how to cope with the grief–as well as much scriptural comfort on the subject. Some of the articles are: “It Can’t Be True!” “Is It Normal To Feel This Way?” “How Can I Live With My Grief?”, ” A Sure Hope For The Dead.”. I encourage you–if you feel up to it– to read this brochure online. Here’s the address:
I hope it will bring you some comfort. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

“John Lara” (
17 January, 2003
Happy New Year JohnJohn!!
It’s been a very long time since I’ve left flowers. The time just seems to fly by. Weeks into months into years. This month we have three birthdays to celebrate, Alma’s, yours and Jeanine’s. Melody, Kris and I spent the whole day yesterday ‘organizing the stuff in the garage’, I took all your boxes and reboxed them into plastic containers. I have all your comic books, letters, cards and coins you’ve collected, put away nice and neat and labeled. It was sad and chuckles going through all your things. I even have some of your clothes put away. I miss you son. I will always miss you. Love you and a huge ABRAZO!!

“Lara, John” (
10 January, 2003

Jacob Aaron Daniel
September 11, 2002

An Angel
An Angel came from heaven,
to visit us today.
His heart was full of sorrow,
for he knew he could not stay.

But he wanted to see his family,
the ones who loved him so.
His heart was full of sorrow,
for he knew he’d have to go.

He asked his Lord in heaven,
for some time with Mom and Dad.
His heart was full of sorrow,
for he knew they’d soon be sad.

Baby Jacob had a purpose,
Jesus knew he had a plan.
So he let him come to visit,
hoping Mom and Dad would understand.

He came to show them many things,
like courage, strength and love.
He came to do so much for them,
from heaven up above.

He sees all of us together,
joined in common strife.
His heart no longer sorrows,
he had purpose, he had life.

Jacob Aaron Daniel
September 23, 2002
Original Poem By Janie L. Porras 9/22/02

Hello Family,
I know we always send well wishes to each other on our birthdays. I would like to send one for john john’s birthday. I know he’s always on our mind especially times like this. I miss him very much but I know he’s very happy. I just enlarged a picture of him and I have it on the wall in the hallway. So Happy Birthday John John !!! Miss you, love you Your sis

“Melody” (
08 January, 2003
Hi John John,
I think about u all the time. the other day I saw a man standing on the corner who looks just like you, he was wearing a red shirt and looked like he just finished playing basketball. I know it’s you reminding me that you still live in me and just about everyone else you have blessed while you were here phyiscally. Today I visited this church that is right around the corner from my house. Dad knows the name – he says that there are four of them on this side of the border? anyhoo. I felt you as I talked with God, I left the church with a comforting feeling in my soul. Thank you. I love you always. Me

“Lara, John” (
07 January, 2003
Happy New Year JohnJohn
Time flies, from days to weeks to months to, now years. Some things change and some things don’t. Will always miss you. Mel and I went through all your boxes and repacked them. Your comic books, cards, letters and even some of your clothes were pack so they will last a very long time. We will celebrate your birthday in two days. I’ll write to you again then. God Bless you Huge Abrazo Love Dad
06 January, 2003
Happy early Birthday! I wanted you to know that I’ve thought about you. I hope you and Albert have met up and have joined together to watch over all of us. I’m leaving you a single red rose which stands for the love I have for my nephew and godson. Love, Aunt Janie

Doug Cook (
27 July, 2002
Dear John
My husband, Doug, and I are friends of your father’s. He has been a great help and comfort to me since my son, Andy, went home to be with the Lord last year. I have heard a lot about you and I know how much your father loves you. I know that when he gets to Paradise, you will be waiting for him, as Andy will be waiting to greet all of his family. I hope you meet up with him. Andy’s a stand-up guy, who has a great sense of humor. He was trusting the Lord and sharing Him with his friends at work, much as you shared the Lord on your missions. Doug, your dad and I look forward to our eternal life in Christ. We miss you guys. We love you, Lucy and Doug Cook Lake Elsinore, CA

“Lara, John” (
22 May, 2002
Hi John,
Thinking about you today. I’m leaving on my trip to Texas. I’ll get to see Jeanine, Jim and the family. Really looking forward to visiting your memorial. I’m will try to take your mom along. Lily and Julio will help me clean up the place, freshen it up a bit. Thanks for putting a smile on my face. Love you. Dad

10 January, 2002
Happy Birthday Son!! Love you and as always still miss you. Continue watching over the family. Dad

10 January, 2002
I understand that your birthday here on earth ceased to exist, When you left us at the age of 20 Today I celebrate that special day, the day John Anthony Lara, III was born in 1976. Today I celebrate those Memories, that I hold close to my heart’s ache The one Teasure that can’t be lost, stolen, loose its lustre or break. Born three years after me, and closest in age at the time, we played alot together. One Time, when you were 4, maybe 5. You played with Star Wars figures and you had every single thing! The AT AT…, Some spaceship, oh and the land hover thing? You would get mad at me, because I would make Princess Lea and Luke smooch instead of fight, You would yell, “Mom! Mel’s not playing Right!” I remember when you were about 10 ? You and your friends built a Fort in our backyard, and so I got us girls together, we made our own club in the storage shed?? Remember the Mudball fights? Fun until one met a some kid’s head! I remember when you were 19, I think, It was Christmas Eve, I believe. When you went with me to the grocery store, you were telling me how to accelerate a car properly, instead of putting it to the floor. Telling me how the car was my friend and I should take care of ? you might of even given Dad’s Probe a name? When I remember you, I smile, I think of your funny smirks, your look with your eyes when you say something even you are impressed with, your daughter, your face, your eyes, eyelashes, basketball, dungeons and dragons, paintball, comic books, coins, stamps, eagle scouts, my grateful dead shirt you liked so much, determination, Charity, Religious Committment, Respect for yourself, as well as for others, & the one Memory I hold, much clearer and higher than any others, is the day we were debating …Christ / Darwin theory (ya know) and when we were done I just went up stairs – I think I might have been laughing or smiling I didn’t think anything was wrong and a minute later I come down to find you crying. (in a nutshell) You didn’t want me to Go to Hell. ) I couldn’t believe you were crying for me. I love you and miss you I wish I had more memories of you but I guess all the memories in the world wouldn’t be enough. Love Your sis, Mel

Jeanine Talamo (
10 January, 2002

“Lara, John” (
21 September, 2001
Hi JohnJohn,
been thinking about you a lot lately, as you know, there’s been a lot of pain and suffering and a lot of people unfortunately are going through the same emotions we did. I do miss you and continue to deal with your loss. I love you Dad

“Jeanine Talamo” (
20 February, 2001
Hi john john
it’s been awhile since I left some flowers.I have been thinking about you a lot especially when I’m around Madison. I start to wonder how you two would be with each other you probably would have just spoiled her and she would of loved her uncle john john. she’s three now and she has your picture in her room she knows who you are we talk about you all the time. having your picture in her room gives me a since that you are there with her but then I think your everywhere watching over us. sometimes I think your probably just looking down and laughing at us they we act sometimes. as you probably know I’m pregnant again my due date is coming up and soon Madison will have a sister. I still can’t think of a name I guess I’m hoping it will just pop up we’ll see. I went to church today and the service was about timing gods timing I still have trouble accepting what happen and I still ask god to lead me down the right path to him and to you because of you I accepted the lord into my life and my family life I wish I could have shared this experience with you here on earth but I know you are in a much better place and with the lord you were serving. I know your happy I know your loved I hope you hear my prayers I miss you very much. you are an awesome brother and I was very lucky to be your sister. I thank god for letting me know and love someone like you. love and hugs your sister

Lourdes Cruz (
26 January, 2001
You have been much thought of. What I most remember is how you liked my “Mole” and spanish rice when we lived on Almond. I think of you and say a prayer for you when I’m at church. I’m excited you are with God. What an awesome experience. I know we all would be looking forward to that day. I love you and your family very much.

“Lara, John” (
10 January, 2001
Happy Birthday!! John John
I miss you.

Lily Contreras (
15 December, 2000
i try this and i hope it works love and miss you love aunt lily

merry christmas love aunt lily

“Connie Bost” (
18 November, 2000
Dear Lara Family,
While looking around the internet I came across your memorial for John. I just wanted to apologize for what happened to John, I am sorry that our area will forever be a source of pain for you. We too miss the impact that John would have obviously had on our area. Please find comfort in the fact that as important as Johns life was on earth, it must be tenfold in Gods plan. I live about 40 miles from Bayfield Colorado and remember reading about this tragedy in the newspaper and seeing it on Television… I ached for you then and I ache for you now… I leave no earthly flowers that in no way can comfort you in the death of such a fine young man, instead I leave my prayers for all the people that John wanted to help. May his memory live on in the works of our Lord.
God Bless
Connie Bost
Farmington New Mexico

“Lara, John” (
15 August, 2000
hello son,
always thinking/talking about you. Life keeps everyone pretty busy these days. I guess we all should take the time to give thanks for what we have and how we are. Like the saying goes…take time to smell the flowers…I really need to do just that. I miss you. Love Dad

“Melody Lara” (
05 April, 2000
Dear John,
I am sorry i haven’t left any flowers for you in awhile. This bunch of flowers are wildflowers, colors of yellow, orange, purple, pink and red! I love you as always and I miss you completely.
Love always your sis melody

28 September, 1999
Good Morning John John,
Today I really miss you. Today it is very hard, if I start to think of you and everything, my stomach gets upset, and well, I have to think of something else or i am afraid i might get sick. not a great thing to talk about but oh well. I feel pretty bad because i just realized today what a humble, honest, loving, and supportive man you grew to be, imulating how manageable life can be when you have a relationship with God. I am mad at myself because I didn’t take the time to get to know my little brother, who had spiritually matured, while I still an infant. When you were on this Earth, I didn’t open my ears to hear you. If i would have listened, you would have helped me find the answers to my problems, which I ALONE couldn’t figure out. It’s been three years … God will not place in front of me more, that would exceed the limits of my capabilities to endure. Joy is Peace hidden inside of Pain. (I can’t quote the Bible yet) but I do remember things that mean alot to me. I know that you are all around, but to the average person like me that doesn’t understand or hasn’t read a bible coundn’t possibly percieve the idea that as long as you love yourself, than you are never alone, and with God at your side, he will give you the strength, courage, the answers… to help anyone who calls on him when they need him. God is there for me and all i need is to ask for him to pray for me that i could do some good with my life and at least end up at the crossroads where your journey ended and mine to begin.

“Lara, John” (
22 September, 1999
Hello John,
Well, we are getting ready to observe the 3rd year of your rebirth. As usual we all have all these mixed emotions… sad, happy, angry. As you know this year has been a real tester for all of us. But somehow we keep going. We will be at Melody’s home and plan to watch you on the precious videos that we have. Your monuments look good, I have to call Tony and thank him. Here’s a great big hug and kiss. Con mucho amor Tu Padre
15 June, 1999
dear john john see if this gets to you love aunt lily

“Melody Lara” (
14 April, 1999
Good Morning! I leave lots of fresh wildflowers, I miss you John, and I love you. I have been pretty busy, I have two jobs now, Aaron is going to live with Jeanine, Denise bought that new car she was always talking about she would get. Dad’s wedding is slowly inching closer, Bret is doing good, he still working as a tech, hopefully in the future we can work together at either of the jobs i am working now. Pretty girl is getting big and she is starting to snore like Wagner. (and stinks like him too. J/k)
Well bye for now 🙂 oh yeah sorry I didn’t support you fully when you want to tell me about God

John Lara (
17 March, 1999

1 February, 1999
Hello Son,
Happy birthday…..hugs………Love You

Melody Lara (
13 January, 1999
Hello my brother! I apologize for not leaving flowers during the Christmas season. But you already know I was thinking of you. And I am mad. I am mad (don’t know who or what) but i am mad my brother isn’t here with us. But we could go on and on about that subject. Merry Christmas, Happy New Year and Happy Birthday. We all got together on your birthday at Dad’s house. David and Madison blew out your candles. I volunteered to inventory your belongings. You will be pleased to know books and clothing were donated to A Christian thrift store – proceeds going to support missionaries, like yourself, to keep the word of the Lord on its journey to reach people in far away places who may just not know yet, what Jesus Christ did for their sins and How God sacrifice is only son. I see it now. I love you. mel

23 November, 1998
Letter From Heaven

To my dearest family, some things I’d like to say.
But first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I’m writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there’s no more tears of sadness; Here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I’m out of sight.
Remember that I am with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through.
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, “I welcome you.
It’s good to have you back again, you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, They’ll be here later on.
I need you here badly, you’re part of my plan.
There’s so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man.”
God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night the day’s chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you…in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth, and those few loving years.
Because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry: it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
If I were to tell you, you wouldn’t understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o’er.
I’m closer to you now, than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
But together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I’d like it for you too;
That as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who’s in sorrow and pain;
Then you can say to God at night…”My day was not in vain.”
And now I am contented…that my life was worthwhile.
Knowing as I passed along the way I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low;
Just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you’re walking down the street and you’ve got me on your mind;
I’m walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.
And when it’s time for you to go…from that body to be free.
Remember you’re not going…you’re coming here to me.

08 November, 1998
Hi John. I just wanted to let you know I miss you. I will never ever know why we are apart. But now i am starting to appreciate things more, Like family, trees, the wind. The smell in the air after a nice rainfall. Your eyes are what I remember most from you. Sparkling with life, courage, love, intelligence.
Love you always, mel

John Lara (
13 November, 1998
Hi Son,
I am leaving you a huge bunch of wildflowers, they are bright yellow, blue, pink, red and green. At least I think they are, you know, me and my colors. I miss you. Here’s a big hug.

27 October, 1998
Hi Son,
We’ve been really busy lately. We had Denise’s birthday party. We really supprised her. We’ve had Sandi’s baby shower. Alma was in the hospital. Jeanine went to Vegas, I went down to Mexico. Melody landed another job. Jim got another job. Brett just keeps on puttering. David keeps getting more of your toys. Madison Johnel continues to give joy to everyone. I try to keep up with everyone, to see how they are doing, if they need some cash, etc. Then I think about giving you a call to see if you need anything and I stop. Oops. I forgot. I know you have everything you could possibly ask for and more, and for that I am so happy and proud and blessed. It’s just me, son. It’s just your old Dad missing you. I love you John

05 October, 1998
Hi Son,
I flew over Texas on my way back from Florida on the 24th of Sept. Actually it was almost over Elgin. I felt that in a way I visted you. I felt really calm and comforted during the flight. I have been talking to a lot of people about you. They all say how they wouldn’t want to be in my shoes. I tell them that I’m very glad and proud to have you as a son. To have enjoyed your smile, your hugs, your life with me and your sisters. I spent a lot of time talking with your Aunt Janie, and with Kirsten. I miss you, son, but this will only be for my time on this earth, I have to seek THE LORD and pray that HE will find me worthy to see you again. Words cannot express, my mind cannot conceive, my heart cannot feel the emotions I have every day. I miss you with joy and I miss you with sadness. Somehow I have to put my love for THE LORD before my LOVE for you. May GOD give me and your sisters strength and faith as we continue A BIG HUG and a KISS

24 September, 1998
today 2 years ago you went with the lord. I sit here in my house taking care of my daughter and I think so much has happened. I thought today I would be sad but instead I don’t know what I feel. I know that I miss you every day, and I know I have to go on for my family and for myself. John because of you I have the lord in my life, and I want to thank you for that. I wish I could have shared this spritual feeling with you. I always wonder if I took you to my church would you think I go to church to be closer to god but I also go because I feel closer to you. When the music plays it brings this warm feeling in side it’s like you are there with me. I spoke to Steve yesterday and we had a good conversation. No wonder Josh was such a good friend. I’m glad that you had a realtionship like that. I’m happy that you went through the birth of your daughter. I am very proud to have you as a brother, I just wish I knew that sooner. When I sat outside today I asked for just a breeze to come by and I got this gust of wind, the wind chimes made this pretty sound and I knew that you were ok and I know that the lord will watch over our family because I asked him to. May god show me the way and set me on the right path to him and he will show me the path to you. When a breeze blows on me I think of you and when I can touch a life and they tell me may god bless you I think of you. Love jeanine

“Mr. B” (
16 September, 1998
It’s almost been 2 years. and it still hasn’t sunk in. Sometimes I wish I could have taken your place. This beautiful morning I leave one of my bracelets I made. it’s sort of like the one i made for dad. black onyx with hematite stones, I hope you like it. I also leave a huge bunch of wild flowers tied with ribbon. By the way, thanks for looking out for me on the freeway those few times. It definitly was a miracle that I’m here.
Love, Mel

Jeanine Talamo (
12 August, 1998
for my brother john lara. i still remember your laugh ….jt

Mr. B” (
27 July, 1998
Good Morning John, I can’t believe how long it’s been since that awful night to this brand new morning. I miss you a lot and I don’t know how I or anyone else goes on with their life after losing someone close, tragically. I see your face on many people out there. But, not as handsome as yours. Love always and forever, Melody Lara

John Lara (
08 June, 1998
Hello Son,
I just got back from visiting you in Elgin, your cousins Susan, Janet, Janice and your aunts Lily and Susie, your grandmother, we all placed some real bright pretty flowers on your cradle. Susan put a small fishing rod with little fish by your headstone. I also place three sleeping babies that your sister Jeanine gave you. I think the phrase “I miss you”, is just not enough for me. It doesn’t convey what I feel. Yes, I know that you are doing great and I am happy that you are with Jesus and your friends and family, but I find it difficult to let go of the selfishness that I feel of wanting you with me. I love you, son.

Jeanine Talamo (
29 May, 1998
I think about you every day, and I still remember your laugh. I miss you. I can’t wait to tell Madison the honor she has in having your name … love always your sis…. 🙂

“Mr. B” (
21 November, 1997
John, you touched a lot of people in your life, and always left things better than they were. I love you and miss you. Love, your big sis, Mel

“Mr. B” (
28 December, 1997
John, I want to wish you a merry Christmas! Jeanine had her baby yesterday and her name is Madison Johnelle Talamo, 9lb 5oz. (she is big!). Jeanine was trying so hard to find a way to name her baby after you, since she knew she was having a girl. I think Johnelle is perfect.! Love, your sis.